When I was young and ambitious, my mum must have noticed that the lack of success was weighing down on me. As her way of making things better, she said something that at the time seemed totally useless and naive to me, she said: “I just want you to be happy”. The thing is, at that time I didn’t want to be happy, I wanted to be successful. I wanted the world. After decades passed by and success eluded me, success no longer became a goal; my aspirations were about more tangible things. I then had a child of my own, and began to understand what real happiness is all about. I then understood what mum was talking about.
The thing is, being happy is not easy, you only have to look around you to see how many miserable people there are. So I feel a pretty successful human being to be able to say out loud: “I am happy!”
And I now appreciate fully what my mum was trying to get me to understand all those years ago. Your dreams, ambitions and goals should always have being happy as the top priority, then it does not matter what you do, you will be happy first of all. If I had been successful, like I planned, I would have been a miserable rock star. Now thankfully I am a happy and successful dad and husband, everything after that is not important.